As we head into the most joyous time of the year, it’s important to think about the many blessings in our lives. All of the holiday magic that surrounds us in this wonderful season is enough to… Sorry… Did I lose you?
If you started reading this and instantly became irritated, or wanted to discontinue the article immediately then I hate to break it to you, but you may be a Grinch. However, I am here to tell you that it’s okay!
I myself have been deemed a Grinch on numerous occasion. While it bothered me at first, I now know that people label me as such because they simply don’t understand why I dislike the holidays. All the twinkling lights and festive scents are enough to bring out the cheer in anyone… except for me.
But it’s time the Grinch’s of the world stood up for themselves and made themselves heard. “Yes I’m a Grinch… but that’s okay!”
The holidays can bring a plethora of emotions and feelings for different people, and for some the holidays can be a painful reminder of certain things. Let’s look at a few common reasons why Grinch’s dislike the holidays, so can better understand the Grinch in your life!
Time with Family
This is one of the hardest things for us to swallow, mainly because it seems so fake! The only reason families get together over the holidays is because they feel obligated by the media to do so.
I guarantee if you asked half of the families if they would rather be in their own homes hanging out with just their kids, most families would respond with a resounding “YES”! If you legitimately wanted to spend time with your family, you would do so during the off season as well, not just at peak holiday times.
Hell, I have cousins I see once a year “because they are family, and family is important.” If family was as important as everyone lets on then there would be more invites throughout the year to be together, not just when Hallmark says to be.
Presents, like Sheldon Cooper on The Big Bang Theory stated, are a baffling idea. “The entire institution of gift giving makes no sense. Let’s say that I go out, and I spend $50 on you. It’s a laborious activity, because I have to imagine what you need, whereas you know what you need. Now I could simplify things, just give you the $50 directly, and then you could give me $50, and so on…”
It’s insane. There is also the added stress of whether or not the gift you buy for someone will be the same value as what you get in return. It’s no wonder people get so stressed this time of the year.
Missing Family Members
This is probably the root of many Grinch’s Grinchiness, especially for myself. The idea of seeing family during the holidays just acts as a reminder of those family members who are no longer around.
I can pinpoint the exact year when my Grinchiness came out; it coincides with the first year I celebrated Christmas without my grandfather. After the death of a family member, especially if it occurred around the holidays, Christmas simply serves as a reminder of the absence of our loved ones.
While the holidays are supposed to be a joyous time of the year, filled with laughter and love, there are many out there, like myself, who genuinely dislike this holiday season. We are Grinch’s, and we are proud of that.
Stop trying to change the Grinch in your life, and try to understand them. We will still show up to the functions, some of us may even decorate to appease the masses and suppress the ridicule, but that doesn’t mean we have been converted.
We dislike the holidays and probably always will. Accept that!