Jumping to conclusions is an epidemic that has been plaguing society for years, and with the digital age in full swing it is worsening every day. Before, you could simply jump to conclusion because of actions, but now people are jumping to conclusions because of text messages and emails.
A woman comes home to find her husband has gone out with friends. A comfortable woman would assume he went to the bar to have a few beers and will return later. A woman who jumps to conclusion will assume he is lying about where he has gone, or worst case scenario, that he is cheating.
A guy comes home to find that his wife has gone dancing with a few friends. The rational guy will think, good, she deserves a night out as she’s had a stressful few days. The guy who jumps to conclusions starts worrying she will be hit on, or that she has already found someone and is actually with them and not her friends.
In both of these cases that rational person tends to take a backseat while the conclusion jumper comes out to take the wheel. You need to take control again and put that rational thinker back in the driver’s seat. Instead of overreacting and jumping to conclusions why not send them a message asking how their night is going?
But then you receive a text that says “Fine.” Oh God, they didn’t use a period, and there was no smiley face. They didn’t ask how my night was going. Clearly the are cheating.
Once again the conclusions have been jumped to and the rational thinker is screaming to be given control again.
While I agree that sometimes you cannot control where your mind goes (you’d jump to conclusions pretty quickly if your mother-in-law needed to speak to you immediately and you hadn’t heard from your husband since he left for work), but you need to learn how to breathe and rethink your standpoint on the whole ordeal.
Text messages are the worst because we read into things that can’t be read into. Perhaps someone typically uses a lot of emojis in their texts. Then if they don’t we panic because that must mean they’re hiding something.
What?! Why is this a thing? You cannot truly understand the meaning of a text message because tone and emphasis are entirely dependent on the interpretation of the reader.
Even the most skilled author can’t craft writing in a way that will convey the correct tone to every single reader, so the average person sending a text message certainly can’t either.
I can write something as simple as “I need to see you” and it can be taken as a) I miss you and need to see you b) I have important news I have to share c) I have something bad to talk to you about… Nine times out of 10 we are jumping to c) without giving a) or b) a thought, and this needs to stop!
Take a breath and think things through before you jump to conclusions. Learn to look for signs instead of jumping right to the negative.
You might find yourself happier for it!